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Author: AmyE
Date: 02-11-03 10:15
I know this is gonna sound strange, but here goes anyway. I have been fat for the last 10 years...since my son was born and have only been able to shop for clothes in the 'fat person' stores or in the 'plus' section. I am now smaller than I have been since he was born...down to a size 16 in pants (in skirts I can get into a 14 if it has an elastic waist) so I can now shop in 'regular' stores albeit as the biggest size. My problem is that when I go into these stores I feel out of place. Like people are looking @ me going "why is that fat cow shopping here? She is too big" I think its cuz I still feel like the same person. It's like when I was 300lb's and I saw myself on a video and went..'oh my gosh, is that me? I cant be that big!' except now its the opposite and I'm thinking I'm bigger than I am. As it is I hold up my size 16 pants and go 'these are never gonna fit' and then they slip right on. I dont know if this makes any sense or if anyone else ever feels this way. I'm just wondering if I will ever get over that feeling?
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Author: Going Down
Date: 02-11-03 10:28
Sometime those feelings can be used in a positive way to reinforce the fact that you are doing good but not taking it for granted....Look at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself that you look good, that you are working hard and it shows and realise that you view things differant because of a little insecurity...I think that while being at my biggest I made up my own mind of the way people looked at me and what was said..Now I realise that more then likely they were probably looking at the rack of clothings behind me or didn`t mean things the way I took it ...YOU are doing great and YOU NEED to remind yourself of that, if you want to feel good about it you need to first tell yourself of it and then believe it...What would you tell someone going thru a similar thing? You are working hard, you are doing good, you deserve to shop for clothes that fit now lets believe it...:) G
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Author: Kerry
Date: 02-11-03 11:08
I think a lot of us get "stuck" thinking that we are a certain way. I had the opposite problem as you. I was thin all through high-school and college. I didn't start gaining weight until after the birth of my second son. I had two boys very close together, and the second one was premature. I was sooo busy with them that I didn't pay attention to how I looked. I never had to worry about it before. I was one of those "lucky" thin people who seemed to be able to eat and eat and not gain. Unfortunately, those days were over. However, I didn't know it for a long time. I guess I made excuses for the bigger clothes -- i.e. my old ones shrunk, etc. LOL...but it actually took some very rude remarks from a few people to make me get motivated to lose weight. I know that's sad, but it's true. I had someone say, "OMG, what happened to you?" I didn't know what they meant at that time. I had someone else say, "You're not as thin as you used to be." I even had one guy who was stopped at a stop sign yell at me, "Hey, Kerry, what's going on? You're getting chubby?" I still have no idea who that guy was. Well, these rude comments pissed me off enough to do something about it, but I still think they were very rude people!
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Author: Shari
Date: 02-11-03 11:38
I've lost 65 pounds, but, I find I am WAY MORE CRITICAL of my appearance now than I was a year ago! I thought I was the only one though!
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Author: miranda
Date: 02-11-03 13:17
I gained a lot of weight very quickly, and it wasn't until a couple years later, after seeing myself in a family wedding picture, that I began to see myself as seriously overweight. Now that I'm 15 lbs. from my ideal weight, I'm much more self-conscious and uncomfortable with my appearance than I was 75 lbs. ago. Maybe your body image takes a while to catch up with your actual weight.
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Author: Anne-Marie
Date: 02-11-03 14:37
Lol...this week my pants are falling down too...and I still feel fat. I think it just takes time to adapt.
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Author: Jackie
Date: 02-11-03 18:46
Congratulations!! It's a great feeling when you put your pants on and they fall right back off!!! Keep up the good work.
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