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Author: benjess@cox-internet.com
Date: 11-04-03 00:35
My wife and I found out we are going to have our first child a few months ago. I decided that I needed to loose weight and get healthier after that. I've lost 30lbs in the last 2 months and I'm still loosing weight. Nothing fits me anymore and my wife has noticed. I'm worried about my wife feeling self conscous about getting larger as our pregnency progresses, and me making it worse by loosing weight. It's to the point now where she eats more than I do, and I used to finish her meals for her. I just don't want her to eat less than she needs to because she feels bad about eatting more than I do. I give her all sorts of encourgement, and I keep telling her how beautiful she looks (I really do think pregnant women are beautful). But, I was wondering if anyone had any more ideas.
P.S. my secrete... As I've gotten older my will power has increased exponentially. Last year I decided I'd stop smoking, so I quit. Last winter I decided to stop drinking, so I did. Two months ago I decided to loose weight, so I am. I simply stoped eatting too much. I can feel my next decision starting to come on - exercise..
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Author: CJ
Date: 11-04-03 05:37
Firstly, congratulations!! That must be so exciting for you and your wife. And congratulations on your weight loss, that too is exciting.
I understand why your wife might be a little more sensitive about what she's eating and how much, versus you. But maybe if you keep the focus on the wellness of the baby, that will help ease the feelings that she might be having.
Its important that a pregnant woman get all the nutrients she can. That itself can mean eating more that normal...You just have to remember that its all about the baby...try not to worry about how either of you look compared to one another and maybe just focusing all your energy on the growing baby will erase the weight factor...or decrease its importance.
Now, if I were pregnant, I would take full advantage and eat heartily, not badly, but I'd make sure I was nevery hungry!!!! This is the one time that women are supposed to eat lots...so maybe try encouraging her that way...I know it would work for me!!!!
Good luck!
CJ
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Author: Fabulous@50
Date: 11-04-03 08:32
Adding to what CJ said, I would suggest that you volunteer to become the food shopper and chef. Make filling, delicious and healthy meals to ensure your wife and child are the healthiest they can be.
It's really nice that you give her loving words of encouragement--keep that up--but there's just something extra special about a man who shops, cooks, serves, and then cleans up the dishes! Don't you agree Ladies??
Fabulous@50
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Author: benjess@cox-internet.com
Date: 11-04-03 09:10
My wife and I both work, and have never really had gender rolls anyway. I do much of the cooking/shopping/cleaning. My wife couldn't correctly clean a kitchen to save her life.
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Author: Lady
Date: 11-04-03 10:41
My sister and her husband are going through the same thing right now. They both have been very overweight for a long time. They have been trying to get pregnant for about five years and couldn't. Which added to the weight gain. Finally, It happened and he decided to make some changes. He stopped drinking and gave up junk food. He has now lost a major amount of weight. I don't know exactly how much, but he looks about half his former size. Whereas, my sister is now twice her former size. She has told me that she is sick of people asking him about his weight and always bringing it up, so that's why I don't know how much he's lost. I'm afraid to ask. Also, our Mom has lost 60 lbs., our other sis has lost about 30, and I'm now down about 13. So, as you can see, everyone around her is getting smaller as she gets bigger. She also started out bigger than everyone in the first place. Right before she got pregnant, she gained about 30 pounds in like 2 or 3 months from the fertility meds. I feel really bad for her, but for now there is nothing that can be done. She knows enough to know not to diet while pregnant and lately, she's been cramping after doing minimal chores so exercise is out. She needs to just except the fact that weight will come on and it's a good thing. She will have plenty of time after the baby's born to try to get the weight off. We all have gone through it. With my first two kids, I gained 45 pounds each. Just when I thought I had the weight off, I got pregnant again. It happens to the best of us. All of us who have been pregnant have gone through it. And it's not really that big a deal because there are so many more important things to be thinking about right now! I wish you the best of luck and congradulations!
Lady
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