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Author: Jennifer
Date: 06-19-03 06:27
I have been reading some posts about how people feel guilty about splurging every once in awhile. What gets me through those moments so I don't obcess about the food item is: 1) we can eat whatever we want when it is in moderation., 2) I remember this littlew boys story of when he first moved to the United States and made his first trip to a grocery store. He happened upon the animal isle and he thought that the, Wow the animals must run the country to have so much food variety. As you can see I don't get upset when I don't adhere to my diet very strictly because as a priviledged person I am for having such variety of food to chose from for myself and my animals when there are people out there starving. I am not upset with anyone on this board but you just need to relax a little. I have been dealing with weight issue all of my life, even when I didn't have to because my sisters would tell me I was fat and I wasn't. Looking back at pictures I was skinny and tall. Now I am short and fat.since late teen years. I hope I didn't offend anyone.
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Author: Tonya 155/145/135
Date: 06-19-03 07:03
I think that some people have a very hard time not obsessing about food. That extra bite they ate might be telling them "you are weak and can't make it, no wonder you're fat, you have no self control." It's all a viscious circle, their weight makes them feel bad about themselves and everytime they do something that appears to sabotage their weight loss it is another screaming announcement that they aren't any good. So, if that's what's going on, it's no wonder that the extra roll is a big deal for them. They've let themselves down and reafirmed their micro failure.
I guess the key to not obsessing is to getting to the point where you know, with confidence, that to eat an extra roll or to have a cheat day doesn't make you weak. It won't keep you from losing weight. The extra snacking on cheat days will slow down your weight loss, but it won't halt it if you are truly committed to losing the weight.
Everyone here is here because they let themselves eat more than their body could use and they're working very hard to reverse that habit. I think that some of that obsessing will end when those people that are tremendously hard on themselves are able to see that the process is working. It might be slow, but it is working and they are heading towards their goal.
Of course, this is just my opinion. :-)
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Author: Teena 311/282/200?
Date: 06-19-03 07:12
thanks for summing that up tonya :) you said it better than i could. and thanks for the advice and encouragement but most of all thanks for understanding :)
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Author: BFL Michelle
Date: 06-19-03 07:14
I go through periods where I totally obsess and feel like food is the total enemy. Just got over soemthing like that recently. It seems to pass on it's own...
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Author: Jennifer
Date: 06-19-03 07:23
I see your point of view and I understand that it is hard to lose weight when our nation is obsessed with food, Mcd's extra value, all-u-can eat. But not everyone is here because they over eat. I for instance is hear because I need to get healthier. My problem is not that I am a overeater but I was never shown good nutritional habits. I am the youngest of 11 and by the time I came along my mother had been in a mental hospital for nervous breakdowns. My brother drowned and at the same time she was taking care of us, her parents, my dad's parents, working a full time job, and another brother was off to Vietnam. So it is understandable that she was tired and she didn't make me eat what I want. I under eat at 800 or less calories a day. So I need the support to get more physically active so i can feel like I can eat more calories. Just because you are over weight doesn't mean you are an overeater. All I was trying to say is some people shouldn't take it too hard and stop kicking themselves in the butt. I was trying to make people not feel so guilty and enjoy what they have, in my own way I felt I was being supportive.
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Author: Donna 180~156~130
Date: 06-19-03 07:40
Someone once posted something to me here that i'll never forget...
It's not what you eat 10% of the time that counts, it the other 90% that matters.
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Author: Tonya 155/145/135
Date: 06-19-03 07:43
Thanks Teena. I've been there and know. Learning to talk to yourself in a positive voice and not always criticize yourself is a hard lesson to learn and stick to.
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