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Author: Marie clair 134/128/120
Date: 08-06-03 09:03
my best friend gave birth to a little boy today both are well.I am over the moon for them. but at the same time i have this awfall jealous feeling of why them and not us. i feel terrible that i feel like that it makes it worse because this baby isn't planned (wanted but not planned)
We haven't been trying for that long and i know that i am young and have plenty of time.
just needed to tell someone how i am feeling obviously can't talk to my friends as they will all think i am been selfish. and hubby is away with work
thank you
MC
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Author: MNMichelle
Date: 08-06-03 09:06
Chin up - it'll happen when you least expect it. I know plenty of folks who finally gave up, started adoption process and when the stress to concieve was off, all of a sudden found themselves pregnant! Moral of the story - don't try to "get pregnant" - just love your hubby and "have fun"!
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Author: Jennifer 242/225/175?
Date: 08-06-03 09:16
My husband had an accident that gave him a partial vasectomy when I was 8 months pregnant. The doctors said he would not produce anymore children and then I stopped having a cycle. Shhh!, we're keeping this a secret from our last 2 children. Not really just thought it was funny. If you need some time to fill do some research on how to increase your chances of babies. Some people make it a homework project and the least that could happen is you and your husband wear each other out. HEHE. Diet changes help, elevating feet for 20 minutes afterwards, do an ovulation chart and only have sex on those days, 7 days on and 28-30 days off with no exception on husbands part if you know what I mean. Fill your time with a project or two and don't worry about the baby aspect so much it will come, no pun intended.
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Author: Marie clair
Date: 08-06-03 13:48
thank you your both darlings
i feel so bad for feeling jeleous us females can be strange creatures
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Author: Mary 240 ~ 240 ~ 150
Date: 08-06-03 13:56
Marie Clair,
I know the feeling, believe me. I tried for a long time and had all but given up when I found I was pregnant. My sister-in-law strangely enough had gotten pregnant (not only accidentally but the baby was unwanted) a few months before me. When she first got pregnant I felt the way you do, like it was so unfair (although I felt guilty about it) Then I got pregnant too. I was so excited. I was with my sister-in-law when she gave birth to her son, (I was 2 months pregnant) and the next morning, after staying with her in labor all night long, I lost my baby. I was devastated. At first I even felt a little resentful, like if her husband had just been by her side instead of me, my baby might still be here! (I got over that really quickly) A year later, and my chance finally came along. It's so hard, because all everyone told me was "don't worry about it" "don't think about it" and of course, it was ALL I could think about... After the miscarriage, I decided to start a new life that did NOT depend on a baby in it. I lost some weight, started looking for a new job, and of course promptly got pregnant (finding out after getting my dream job and working there for one week, then having to quit because of the morning sickness) But I guess the moral is, things have a way of working out. Also, if you need to talk about the frustration of wanting a baby and having trouble, you can e-mail me. I cried my eyes out every time I started my period for a long time... I understand what you're going through. Keep your chin up.
~Mary
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Author: Marie clair 134/128/120
Date: 08-07-03 08:51
Thank you mary.
Just reading your post has helped. Although my head tell me not to worrry and i know a lot of woman wait years to become mothers. My heart and my whole boby is telling me something different.
It is good to know that there is someone who know what i feel as i don't feel i can talk to anyone close to me . No doubt i will be e-mail mailing in 16days when tom is due to visit.
we have been invited to meet the new baby tonight so lots of smiles needed
thanks again
Clair
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