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Author: simply trying
Date: 11-09-04 19:57
OMG...RED alert...Mom says she would kill for her son if she had to , and meanwhile deary son doesn`t think there is nothing wrong with that kind of statement!!!!!
Verbal abuse can lead to physical abuse and you may be better off to cut your loses now! Scary! If he has no problem with such statements, or if he just lets his mom get away with it, then he probably is not showing his true colours...Don`t wait until it`s too late honey...Anyone who stands by and says nothing while someone else makes threats (sp) at the one you love(family included) is not worth it...Get out , it`s better to spend Christmas with your family then to spend it with his being verbally abused...You are better then that and you deserve better then that...Give the baseball anyway if you feel you must or keep it for yourself....As much as you don`t want to be by yourself there comes a time when enough is enough....
5` 4 and 3/4 inches
previous weightloss from 2002- 2003
jan 2002 --198 lbs/ down to 160 lbs
start losing weight again July 19th 2004
168 lbs/ 157 lbs / 145 lbs
inches lost from may 5th to-oct 2nd 2004=15.5in
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Author: Elizabeth Ann
Date: 11-09-04 20:08
Here's the really nutty thing about this. It's not that he was ignoring her threat...
He didn't see it as a threat! He saw that as her being how she is ALL the time (which very well may be true, she says horrible things constantly)
He's a GOOD person, I just can't figure out what it is that's keeping him from standing up for me. If he would do just that one thing, SO MANY PROBLEMS would be solved.
Instead of running away just yet, I just don't go near her now. I don't know exactly what my next step is going to be. I don't WANT to leave him. I think there's still a possiblity that this may work... and I want it to work so badly.
But thank you so much for being concerned for me. I don't know what I'd do without you guys.
~Elizabeth Ann~
205-195-135
10 lbs lost since 8/20/04
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Author: Elizabeth Ann
Date: 11-09-04 20:16
I sound like one of those horribly pitiful girls who can't do right.
~Elizabeth Ann~
205-195-135
10 lbs lost since 8/20/04
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Author: kidsmom
Date: 11-09-04 20:36
Elizabeth Ann....you are a beautiful smart woman...Please do not waste anymore time with a man who would let his mother speak to the future mother of his children that way (yes...I am jumping ahead a little...but..you get my point).
You deserve a real man...and not one who is happy to sit by and let his mother say and do things that are hateful and evil ( I know it is a strong word...but..so is the threat of bodily harm) You may think that he will change...and yes...he will do some growing...but..let me tell you...if he is too wimpy to stand up to his mother...that usually does not go away. It is easier for him to just let her act like that than to say something because when it comes to her...he is weak.
You DO NOT want to spend your life trying to "not be around her" instead of dealing with her...what happens when you two have kids? Is she the grandma you always envisioned for your kids?
Give yourself what you deserve...a man who is a real man...and one who fixes his car in a timely manner would be good too. :)
I hate to be all practical about this love stuff (trust me..I am a hopeless romantic and madly in love with my hubby)....BUT...a girl has to think about these things...you need a man who is gonna take care of business and protect his wife and kids at all costs. Doesn't really sound like your boyfriend is up to the task.
Kristie
"If we are facing the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking."
Buddhist proverb
238/184/135
Started New Life Jan. 12,2004
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Author: Eric
Date: 11-09-04 23:09
Elizabeth Ann,
Honeybunch, I hate to agree with Kristie but it's time to bail and cut your losses. A boy that won't stand up to evil spewing from his mother's lips is just that...a boy.
If he won't stand up at all now. he'll never stand up like he should for you.
I always tell my daughters that before they give it up to some guy, they better make sure that he is capable of being the father of their children. Doesn't matter how hot or popular he is, the Daddy test is the bottom line. This guy isn't capable of standing up for you, and he won't protect your children someday either.
You are a bright, sweet girl, not to mention drop dead gorgeous. You'll find Mr. Right soon, and you sure have lots of time. It' not like your one of my cousins from Hispania where at nineteen you're considered an old maid.
Someday when you have a daughter, if she came to you with the same story, what would you tell her to do?
You aren't doomed. This relationship may be.
Thank Goodness you have such loving folks to spend the holidays with.
Just my two cents.
Eric
I intend to live forever.....So far so good!
272/ /188 1.5 lbs. this week. I dare not say till the cast comes off
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Author: Elizabeth Ann
Date: 11-09-04 23:28
They're not going away for thanksgiving after all, either, they're taking me to Disneyland instead.
Did you see my post above?
Well, I appreciate your concern and advice more than you can imagine... but I'm just not ready to quit. We talked, we learned from eachother, and we're gonna give it another shot.
I don't know that I'm willing to look for Mr. Right again. I've never LOOKED for Mr. Right... I just figured one day we would bump into eachother. And well, we did run smack dab into one another...
And I'm just not 100% convinced that he's Mr. Wrong. I'm very wary at the moment, but I'm just not ready to give up. On him OR on myself.
Why are you awake so late tonight Eric?
~Elizabeth Ann~
205-195-135
10 lbs lost since 8/20/04
Post Edited (11-09-04 23:29)
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Author: Eric
Date: 11-10-04 08:24
We're an hour behind you now. What? You think old people can't stay up till 11:00?
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I intend to live forever.....So far so good!
272/ /188 1.5 lbs. this week. I dare not say till the cast comes off
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Author: Elizabeth Ann
Date: 11-10-04 08:36
Hehehe, I'm a young "people" and I rarely do. I'm just a big sleepy baby.
~Elizabeth Ann~
205-195-135
10 lbs lost since 8/20/04
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