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Author: Angel
Date: 05-09-02 16:56
Hey Everyone, I know I struggle with weightloss but how do you get someone you love to join you in getting healthy? .. I love my boyfriend very much, and his weight does not bother me. But I do care about his health. Since we've been dating I've gained 15 - 20 pounds and he gained 60! I know it's mainly because we are so much in love but he weighs almost 300 pounds. He doesn't look it, but it's there and i'm afraid it's affecting his heart. Any Advice? You've all been very helpful for me!
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Author: fattybutt
Date: 05-10-02 05:28
Unless he wants to make the effort....You can`t do it for him...One thing you can do is use your time together and plan some physical activities like hiking, walking, bike riding instead of going to a movie....Tell him that you`ve realized how much more energy you have when you get the chance to be active...
Trust me the idea of you having more energy...That`s a good thing!!! Good Luck, oh yea my husband has lost 10 lbs since january without trying because I do most of the cooking now and plan healthier snacks also...Now that he sees that he has loss 10 lbs without trying he has mentionned walking with me and he`s starting to pay more attention to what he eats....
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Author: Michelle
Date: 05-11-02 08:15
I can't blame you for being concerned. Three hundred pounds is no laughing matter, health-wise. It's really hard for you to do anything for him if he is not motivated. The best thing you can do is to be a good role model for him. Get yourself into a consistently healthy lifestyle - enrol yourself in a gym and go regularly, always choose healthy when eating out (better yet, cook him healthy meals insted of going out), subscribe to a good health magazine and leave it around places where he'll be bound to read them, etc.
He'll likely follow your lead for a lot of reasons - would like to keep up with you (especially when he sees how much better you begin to look, and so he's better keep up or else), has no choice (if he wants to spend time with you, he'd better go to the gym with you since you're not going to let him talk you out of your regular schedule), or just because he'll find it fun since he'll be doing it with someone he loves and who loves him just as much.
Avoid nagging him about it. Make it sound like you're mainly doing these changes for yourself and that you need his support (men like it when you ask for their help). It's hard enough to have the discipline to lose weight for one, but you'll have to carry the discipline for two, at least initially. In the end, it will be worth it.
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Author: Dee
Date: 05-13-02 18:49
Angel, instead of spending time watching movies, eating out and such, find 'physical activities' that you can enjoy doing together. The best and simplest activities you both can start is walking. It doesn't have to be long and strenuous, a brief 10 minutes stroll in the park would do. Walking in the mall (if you enjoy window shopping) can give a healthy benefit to both of you. Change your diet to 'lighter version' by substituting to lower fat ingredients. Take it one day at a time. You'll make it.
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Author: Dave
Date: 05-14-02 13:24
Angel,
It's nice that you are concerned about your boyfriend's health.
From a guy's perspective I can tell you one thing for sure, don't tell him he has to lose weight! It's our natural reaction to dig our heals in fight such a comment. It's like the old 'asking for directions' situation. If a wife tells her husband to ask for directions, he is going to work harder at finding it on his own. If you tell him (or have told him) to lose weight it will get ugly fast.
One way that I know you can probably help him is by not eating out often. If you are like my wife and I before we got married, we ate out almost three/four times each week. Find other things to do that count as a 'date' like going for walks or going to coffee houses instead (but don't buy the cookies!) I can also tell you that for guys, if a female asks him for help, it's a sure way to get us motivated. By this I mean, tell him that you really need his help with your diet. Ask him if he would mind if you picked the places and times to eat so it fits in with your diet. Tell him that you want to walk at the park to help you on your diet.
Lastly, anyone who is 300 pounds will be instantly told by their doctor to lose weight. I know - I was 310 pounds at my heaviest point. It's an unhealthy condition. If he still continues to gain weight even after you have tried to 'sway' him into your diet, then somehow get him to see a doctor. Even if it's for a check up. Also, you can visit a few of the web sites out on the net to request free heart and diabetes info. I would request that information and have it sent to his address or his name if you are living together. Some of their information is very potent as well at letting people know they need to lose.
Good luck with your efforts. I hope you can get him to join you in losing weight. But if not, just make sure you keep your focus and don't let him take you down with him.
Best of luck!
Dave
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